I’m Not Dead!

brokenglassupdateSorry for the disappearance! Things got a little crazy around here, which I’ll detail more in another post. But here’s a quick recap of what’s been going on:

  • My aunt coming to visit.
  • Mom’s chemotherapy and radiation.
  • Loads of different projects (you can check them on my Instagram, which you should go follow if you don’t already!)
  • One of my cats dying.
  • My brother and his wife coming to visit.
  • One of my dogs dying.
  • Breaking my leg and avulsing the patellar tendon. Yup, on the knee I screwed up in the wreck. Lucky me, huh?

So that’s what’s up with me. How are all of you guys doing? I’ll be back soon (as in tomorrow or Monday) with my September favorites and the tea on my mom’s cancer treatment.


The Blame Game Behind Lung Cancer

The words ‘my mother has cancer,’ typically met by hand-wringing well-wishers fraught with concern, turn insidious the moment the formerly concerned hear the full diagnosis: non small cell squamous carcinoma of the lung.

That’s when the questioning begins: Does she smoke? Did she ever smoke? Do you smoke?

(For the curious, the answers to the aforementioned questions are as follows: No. Yes. No, but I used to.)

No one says it outright, but the implication is clear: She only has herself to blame, or maybe you gave it to her.

Unlike breast cancer or pancreatic cancer, lung cancer carries the stigma of you brought this on yourself; what did you think was going to happen? There are no pretty pink ribbons for lung cancer survivors. There is no highly televised ‘save the lungs’ campaign. (And don’t get me started on how dehumanizing ‘save the tatas’ is. How about ‘save the women?’ Or ‘save the patients’ since not all breast cancer sufferers are women.) But I digress. I’m doing a lot of that these days.

That’s why I’ve been MIA from the blog lately. I’ll be moving to and fro between New Orleans and Jackson, Mississippi to be with my mother during treatment. To be frank, it’s probably going to be a real shit-show. It already has been in a lot of ways. I’ll go into more detail in another post, but right now I’m physically and mentally tired. I wanted to update everyone and purge myself of this entry before it bubbled out of me in a vitriol-filled rant (or, more likely, in ugly sobbing against the first cat I could lay hands on).

With my mother’s permission, I’m going to be writing more about her cancer journey on here. For my own peace of mind. To document her battle. And, hopefully, to help those of you who are going through the same thing.

Fuck cancer.